Never Reaching True Potential with Gifted Children

Do all gifted children reach their potential? Do they know what it means to fail and keep trying? Do they put themselves in situations to push their abilities? Often the answer to all these questions is a definitive “NO”.  What can we do as parents to help? IMG_5094

Reaching their potential can be difficult for gifted children- either because the environment does not encourage or force them to the limits. Sometimes they are scared of failure and will do “just enough” to still remain at the top but are at a comfortable level for their abilities. As parents, the easiest way is to demonstrate failure. I know this might sound crazy and it can be difficult because normally adults have the coping skills to deal with failure. For example, if we turn down the wrong street while driving, you can verbalize your mistake your child and recognize how you dealt with the mistake. If you make a new recipe and it is terrible, you can talk with your child about how you were willing to try something new and it didn’t work. Point out how it a learning moment and you won’t make it again.

Unfortunately they often do not have the coping skills for when they do fail. I NEVER want to set my children up for failure but it can be a good skill to understand how to cope. For example, we recently went to a bike park and it was all new for our family. My husband and I modeled to the children (not in a formal way) how we felt to try something new and what would happen if we failed. There was a few moments of falling off bikes or ramps and we would make a quick conversation about picking yourself up and you had to keep working at it to get better. Our youngest learned how to ride on the ramps quicker (much to the dismay of the oldest) but it provided an opportunity to talk to the oldest about how to keep working on it and get comfortable. He wanted to give up a few times and we encouraged him to keep at it.

Here is another great article about gifted kids and the importance of failure and learning how to work towards goals.

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Teaching Academically Gifted Children to Relax?!

Last week I took a week off of the blog- and I missed it. I found that I wanted to find resources, articles, and information to share. I might not have many “followers” but I do this because I love it. But, I still needed to have a few things off my plate for the week to focus on a my to-do list.

Help Your Child Relax

I consistently struggle with wanting to do it all and not knowing when to stop or say no. I think this is very common in gifted children too. They might not want to admit they can’t do it all or have difficult time just relaxing. Their little minds are always racing so they feel that physically they have to be in motion. It is our jobs as educators and parents to teach these children how to relax and just “take it easy”. It is a skill that comes naturally to some but not many gifted individuals.

Here are a few articles for parents to help teach your gifted child how to relax (or any child!)

Stress- Learning to Relax

How to Help Students Relax When They’re Feeling Stressed

Help Your Child Relax *

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The Most Important Thing about Raising Gifted Children

Interesting thoughts about raising gifted children. I love the first video- definitely worth watching to hear a different perspective.

The Gift of OCPD

It can be very exciting for parents to discover that their child is “gifted.” Often what follows this excitement is a keen interest in creating a stimulating educational environment for the child. Parents, however, can easily get so wrapped up in trying to maximize the potentiality of their child that they neglect to develop the very thing that he or she needs most.

The most valuable lesson that parents can teach gifted children is that they have value and worth apart from how well they perform.

Baby Einstein

Sufficiently stimulating the minds of gifted children should be the least of parents’ worries. Even without their parents’ help, gifted children will find creative ways to keep themselves entertained and intellectually stimulated. Parents may try to implement incentives to help their children maximize their motivation to learn, but there really is nothing that can do a better job at that than the deep curiosity…

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Wow- Pretty Sure My Perfectionism is at a High this Week!

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Why are some weeks more intense than others? Why do I feel the need for perfectionism more certain days? 

This week I have been busy updating all our social media with the new name- including this blog. So I figured out how to get all our information and followers changed from the old blog address to this one (yea me!). In the meantime, I wanted the blog to look a little different. But changing it no less than 12 times??!! I am pretty sure I have previewed every template within the blog press choices and that it has looked different every day this week. How much time have I spent stressing over this?? Too much!

Well… for today, I am going to let it go and leave the blog with this theme. But I don’t love it, so it might look different tomorrow!

I keep saying, “let it go, let it go, let it go”. Some days are easier than others to do that.